As soon as you step into your mid 20's the Facebook updates, Instagram pictures and practically all of the social media is sort of hymning about the newly weds and how marvelous they feel about it. Here I am sitting, liking and commenting on their achievements.
The destination weddings, the celebrity appearances at the wedding, the fine looking attires of the bride and groom, the endless selfies, the splendid honeymoon trips to places unimagined. Wow that is a perfect picture of a perfect wedding.
What next?
I happened to have conversations with a few who now repent marriage! For whom words like compromise and sacrifice are a next to impossible situation.
Suddenly life is all about complaints, misunderstandings, thoughts of divorcing and moving on! For a person like me who has yet to step into the "I'm married zone", all this makes me skeptical instead.
The drama that goes in a wedding abruptly dies down in just a few months time wherein the couple realize how misfit they are for each other.
The confusion lies in arrange marriage or love? Love marriage works well, some said! Few of the love marriages I know are already down the drain. So Arrange Marriage it is? Well, they didn't work out either. Some did due to the burden of a child that they decided to bear quoting it as " bahu jaldi hogya" and they didn't even realize it. Are you trying to tell me it was an Adam & Eve phase again in their life!!!
Innumerable questions about marriage and the whopping confusion makes me wonder "Karu ya nai"?!
Is Marriage all about compromises ?or More like I'm getting married because I want the freedom I cant get while I'm home with parents ( specially for girls). For guys it would probably be a test of commitment which eventually fails! What is marriage? Is it about how extraordinarily you can plan your wedding and execute it?
An event management company takes care of the slightest of details. An enormous amount is spent for the "Big Day". Is that it?
How about digging deeper... statistically an overwhelming number of divorces are up on the charts worldwide
Working married women, insecure husbands, infinite clashes.
Not that I've shut doors to the positive side of marriage but realistically how long are you happy after marriage?
A 2 year old dating relation goes through behavioral changes and the couple tends to be at odds WITHOUT being MARRIED. So how can a marriage of a lifetime last happily and by happily I mean Real Happy !!
Who's at fault? The woman? The man? Both? The Marriage?
Is it so strenuous to live a happy married life?
So many questions and I could go on and on and on and they still seem unanswered.
"Sigh"
